”We’re Living Like Brothers”: Finding Friendship at Windmere

When Nick, Joe, John, and Bob sit around a table in the Great Room at Windmere, the conversation flows easily, as they swap stories, share laughs, and compare the unique experiences that led them each to the community.

Though their backgrounds are vastly different, together they’ve found true friendship, a sense of belonging, and a deep appreciation for the community they now call home.

Embarking on a New Chapter

Each of them arrived at Windmere for different reasons, and like so many older adults, the transition wasn’t always easy as they left behind long-time homes, adjusted to loss, and navigated the uncertainty of what comes next. However, at Windmere they found camaraderie, purpose, and a renewed sense of connection.

After living in his house for 65 years and spending many years alone after the loss of his wife, Joe Felice’s children began encouraging him to consider a senior living community. “They wanted me somewhere I wouldn’t be lonely, where I could interact with people,” he said. After touring several communities, Windmere stood out. “Frankly, I thank God my daughter found this place. It’s the best decision I ever made.”

John Brislin shared a similar story of how he came to Windmere following the loss of his wife, although he was a bit hesitant to make the move at first. “I was living in the house alone, and the kids were getting concerned,” he said. “So I agreed to give it a chance. They sat me at a table with people who were very friendly. As the days went on, I kept meeting more nice people.”

Within a month, his doubts faded. “From that day on, it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. This place is phenomenal. I met good friends here—that’s the main thing. I like being with people.”

For Bob Hartgers, a veteran and former business owner, the move was driven by his caregiving responsibilities. After being married for 68 years, he spent a year caring for his wife, who was experiencing memory loss. “It got to the point where we needed extra help,” he said.

Bob moved into The Vista, Christian Health’s continuing care retirement community, and his wife moved into skilled nursing. However, after an injury and his wife’s passing, Bob moved to Windmere where he could have extra support. Because of Christian Health’s comprehensive continuum of care, Bob made a seamless transition to Windmere. “It’s a very lovely apartment, and I’m happy to be here,” he said.

Nick Hagedoorn, who has lived at Windmere for more than 12 years, arrived with his wife after losing a long-held car business. “My wife wanted to come here,” he said. “We lived two blocks away and she had visited people here. Nice place. Nice people. I’ve been happy ever since.”

Finding Friendship and Community

While each man’s path to Windmere was unique, they all shared the same experience of finding true friendship and belonging. For Joe that connection happened almost immediately. “I found instantaneous gratification,” he said. “Having these three guys as friends is something I didn’t fully anticipate, but it’s something I certainly appreciate.”

For John, who didn’t expect to fit in so well at Windmere, that sense of belonging came gradually. “I came here with a bad attitude,” he said. “I thought this place wasn’t for me.” But the friendly people and strong community atmosphere soon began to shift his perspective. He started joining the others’ game of pool, and they welcomed him without question – even teaching him a new way to play with three people. “They didn’t have to do that,” he said. “But they took the time to teach me how to do it.”

Activities like pool, cornhole, shuffleboard, and Wii bowling became the backdrop for the four’s growing bond. John even joined a book club – something he never imagined doing. “I hadn’t read a book in 30 years,” he said. “Now I’m having a great time.”

The men are quick to credit Windmere’s welcoming culture. “Everybody is so friendly,” John said. “You walk around, and people know your name. I don’t think you can find a better, friendlier place. I was immediately accepted, no questions asked. You don’t feel judged here, no matter who you are or where you came from.”

“The four of us come from completely different backgrounds and careers,” said Joe. And yet, here we are, living like brothers and enjoying each other’s company. That’s a remarkable thing.”

A Word of Advice

When asked what advice they would give to other men, especially those living alone and hesitant to make a move, their response was unanimous. “Listen to those close to you,” said Joe. “They see things more clearly sometimes. They know when it’s time to move along and how best to do that.”

The men seem to agree that sometimes just trying something – even if it’s outside of your comfort zone – can turn out to be a truly positive and life-altering event.

“Give it a shot,” said John. “I thought leaving my home to come here would be the worst thing in the world, but it turned out to be the best. It changed my life.”

“We gave it a try, loved it, and have been here ever since,” said Nick.

Not only do they believe that making the move is the right decision – it’s one better made sooner rather than later.

“If I knew then what I know now,” Joe said, “I would have done this a lot sooner.”

Learn More About Life at Windmere

If you are looking for a warm, welcoming community that fosters friendship and truly feels like home, Windmere might be right for you. To learn more or schedule a tour, please call (973) 406-4615 or fill out this easy form.